BALANCE

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At The Retreat At Zion (RAZ) we believe optimum health is found through “BALANCE”.

We all need to balance the needs of both Body & Spirit, and Heart & Mind to fully have integrity and congruency in our life. When we embrace our authentic self, healing occurs.

RAZ is a multidisciplinary Health Recovery Center that offers Programs for Balanced Wellness, Health & Addiction Recovery, and Optimum Performance. Our focus is to provide the very best (progressive yet practical) medical care anywhere, combined with unrivaled therapeutic support. This goal is accomplished by also integrating leading nutrition and fitness services, advanced methods for healing, an enlightened behavioral modification model, and incomparable lifestyle management education as vital parts of a complete health recovery program.

“Our mission is to provide the best education, resources, and support for the prevention, intervention, and recovery from chronic health. RAZ is committed to the research and development of better methods to overcome limiting health and fitness conditions. We aim to lead the fight for better preventative and longevity medicine through integrating traditional and complimentary treatment methods that are proven to greatly improve the health and lives of our patients.”

New scientific research and technologies are providing great breakthroughs in health recovery.

By combining advanced treatments to change the chemistry and synapses patterns of the brain and body, with the best energy medicine; cellular balance and optimum health of body, mind, heart and spirit are restored. As physical health is restored, mental processes shift, emotions are released, and self-reclamation occurs. With a new awareness patients can take the right actions & anchor empowering new behavior patterns. Better life strategies get better results, which motivates the permanent adoption of a healthier lifestyle. This supports a balanced life and continued long-term improvement of health, productivity, and meaning.

One great method of “balancing” is through Yoga practice. It becomes a metaphor for life. In Yoga the Sun and Moon are representative symbolically of the Masculine and Feminine Energies.

The Yoga we are most familiar with – the practicing of physical poses or asanas – is often called Hatha yoga. In Sanskrit, Ha = sun, Tha = moon. Together, Iyengar defines hatha as “force or determined effort”. Combined with the meaning of yoga (to ‘bind, join, attach’, and also ‘union’ or ‘communion’) we reach the understanding that the practice of hatha yoga is a joining or balancing (of the sun and moon energies in the body) by determined effort in order to achieve union or communion. (To what is up to you!)

In theory when we practice Yoga we are trying to join the masculine and feminine energies of our body, thus becoming ‘whole’ and achieving “a poise of the soul which enables one to look at life in all its aspects evenly.” I participated in a Yoga workshop a few years ago, in which the Teacher discussed this balancing principle. He discussed masculine energy as muscular energy. It is that energy which is powerful, energetic, and giving. When you push up from plank pose (kumbhakasana) to downward-facing dog (adho muka svasana), that would be masculine energy. But once you arrive in the pose, you invoke your feminine energy to soften the upper back and the shoulders and sink gracefully into a deeper stretch. The feminine energy is what allows us to be creative, countering the strong but rigid masculine energy with a gentle breath, flexibility, and an open heart.

What amazes me is that after years of practicing Yoga, I was only just discovering this concept. How did I miss it? It’s fascinating (to me!) that in Western Yoga, which is so female-dominated, the feminine principal of Yoga seems to play second fiddle. Is this because the main styles of Yoga we practice today were male-initiated? Or is it because I myself get so logical and task driven in my “Male” thinking, or that Western society is full of those rigid, energetic masculine principles? Because we are so focused on the individual, or on attaining instead of letting go? One example is our typical Yoga mat – straight and narrow. Why did it take me 10 years of Yoga practice to hear a Teacher say: “go ahead and go outside your mat” be more creative!

Simple, yet it can change the whole way you practice Yoga &/or life. It feels like coming home.

From this we learn a valuable lesson. Yoga is neither masculine nor feminine but both. It is strong yet soft, rigid yet fluid, it is fixed in a moment but flexible and changing always. Somewhere in there is a balance – a moment when time stops, when the ego dissolves, when our own internal Yogini or Yogi just is. Not in the doing but in the being. And that is Yoga.

And so goes life!

~Namaste~

 

Love & Light  and most of all  find “Balance & Meaning”.

 

Kevin Brough

 

Breathe

The view of our ranch www.theretreatatzion.com from the plane although beautiful was also looking like a long way down. My beautiful daughter Emily had chosen Sky Diving as a present for her 19th birthday and dad was along for the flight, fall , and float experience.

I quickly and instinctively chose deep breathing as a simple yet powerful relaxation technique to use pre-jump. It’s easy to learn, can be practiced almost anywhere, and provides a quick way to get your stress levels in check. Deep breathing is the cornerstone of many other relaxation practices such as Yoga, Meditation, and other self regulation tools we teach and use at The Retreat At Zion (RAZ).

Pre Jump

Breathing away the stress!!!!!!!!

Thank You        skydivezion

Care Giving

Care-taking VS Care-giving.  There are crucial differences between care-taking and care-giving and you will notice: the healthier and happier your relationship, the more you are care-giving rather than care-taking.

Care-taking and care-giving can be seen as a continuum.  We usually aren’t doing both at the same time.  The goal is to do as much care-giving as possible and to decrease care-taking.  Care-taking is a dysfunctional, learned behavior that can be changed.  We want to change so we can experience more peace, contentment, and better relationships. Intimates in your life may resist your healthier actions, but shifting to care-giving is a huge gift you are bestowing upon your loved ones. (Even when they do not see it at first)

The first step is identify loved ones that are care-taking you. (anyone in your life that you have given permission to watch over (Judge your decisions and or problems) Do you ask for opinions or advise in unhealthy ways? Do you ask or expect others to help carry your burdens, consciously or sub-consciously? Do you consistently go to the same people for help or support in a way that has allowed them to think you NEED them?. Are you giving them some control of your decisions or at least creating a dynamic of needing their wisdom instead of your own?

After you identify who is care-taking you, then ask yourself what role you play to keep that dynamic going. Care-taking is a hallmark of codependency and is rooted in insecurity and a need to be in control, or give up some responsibility or control to another.

Care-giving is an expression of kindness and love, and is based on altruistic empathy with no expectation or ego based attachment to outcome. When we truly allow autonomy the other persons success or failure is their own and should have no effect on how we feel about the help, support, and love we gave or attempted to give.

Here are some key differences between care-taking and care-giving:

  • Care-taking feels stressful, exhausting and frustrating.  Care-giving feels right and feels like love.  It re-energizes and inspires you.
  • Care-taking crosses boundaries.  Care-giving honors them.
  • Care-taking takes from the recipient or gives with strings attached; care-giving gives freely.
  • Caretakers don’t practice self-care because they mistakenly believe it is a selfish act.
  • Caregivers practice self-care unabashedly because they know that keeping themselves happy enables them to be of service to others.
  • Caretakers worry; caregivers take action and solve problems.
  • Caretakers think they know what’s best for others; caregivers only know what’s best for their selves.
  • Caretakers don’t trust others’ abilities to care for their selves, caregivers trust others enough to allow them to activate their own inner wisdom and problem solving capabilities.
  • Care-taking creates anxiety and/or depression in the caretaker.  Care-giving decreases anxiety and/or depression in the caregiver.
  • Caretakers tend to attract needy people.  Caregivers tend to attract healthy people.  (Hint:  We tend to attract people who are slightly above or below our own level of mental health).
  • Caretakers tend to be judgmental; caregivers don’t see the logic in judging others and practice a “live and let live attitude.”
  • Caretakers start fixing when a problem arises for someone else; caregivers empathize fully, letting the other person know they are not alone and lovingly asks, “What are you going to do about that.”
  • Caretakers start fixing when a problem arises; caregivers respectfully wait to be asked to help.
  • Caretakers tend to be dramatic in their care-taking and focus on the problem; caregivers can create dramatic results by focusing on the solutions.
  • Caretakers us the word “You” a lot and Caregivers say “I” more.

As with changing any behavior, becoming aware of it is the first step.  Watch yourself next time you are with someone and ask yourself where you fall on the continuum.  It will take some work to change and you may experience some resistance and fear in the process — but what is on the other side is well worth the struggles of transformation.

Remove yourself from being taken care of in kind ways, and learn to accept care-giving instead. (This may be from new intimates or from shifting existing relationships)

Become a Caregiver yourself. Give freely non-attached to outcome. Guide don’t direct, and ask questions to help others discover their inner wisdom instead of assuming they need your profound wisdom.

Traveling from co-dependency to in-dependency and then hopefully to interdependency in our relationships is difficult but not impossible. We all are entangled and connected. We all need to support and love and be supported and loved as we move through challenges and seasons in our lives.

Happy Care-giving;-) !!!!